Resolutions for 2010

Posted by Thomas J. Brown at 1048 hrs

The time has once again come for me to make public promises that I'll think about every so often over the course of the year and wonder if I'll actually keep (I mean, let's call this what it is, right?). Last year started off pretty well in terms of setting resolutions, but I forgot to update the blog in July like I normally do. I attribute this to having just started working from home, but seriously, I was working from home - shouldn't I have been able to find the time? Anyway, I'll do this the way I normally do, so let's jump right in.

Eat right - I would say that, for the most part, 2009 was an improvement over previous years. The more I pay attention to what I'm eating and how much, the easier it is for me to make good choices. That includes when we go out to restaurants. I know I still have room for improvement, however, but now that I'm working from home I'm much more limited in my choices insofar as I can't just pop out to a restaurant for lunch. That should also save me money.

To help me eat correctly, I want to create an eating "schedule" that tells me what kinds of food I should be eating and when. I probably won't stick to the schedule too strictly, instead using it as a general guideline. I also want to try to plan out dinners in advance. This is something that Morah and I have always kind of struggled with, but we don't usually dedicate time during the week to sit down and plan it out. I'd like to take some time once a week to plan out our meals for the week ahead (I did this recently and it worked out really well). Again, this won't be a "hard and fast" kind of thing, but a guideline. If we don't want to eat what's on the list, or if a particular ingredient needs to be used before it spoils, or if we want to go out to dinner, then we'll do one of those things instead.

Stop drinking alcohol - I'll explain more in a future post. For now, just know that this one of my resolutions.

Work out more frequently - So, I finally joined a gym. Morah and I talked about what our options were and there was no getting around the fact that a gym is really the best value due to its vast selection of equipment. I also got a personal trainer (holy hell is that expensive), and as much as I dislike going to the gym, I feel like it has been worth it.

Unfortunately, with the cold weather, getting in has been tough. I'm a morning exercise kind of person, and while I normally just walk to the gym (it's just shy of a mile from my house), doing so in the weather we've been having has been something I haven't wanted to do.

That said, Morah and I are looking into getting a new car, so having 2 cars would allow me to go to the gym any time of the year (I'll still walk when the weather allows for it). So this one is kind of a toss-up. I've made an effort, but not enough of one. Here's to working harder at it in 2010.

Floss my teeth - Although I still don't do this as much as I should, I think I flossed more in 2009 than my previous 27 years on this earth combined. Fulfilling this resolution is slow going, but I'm getting more into the habit of flossing. I'll keep at it this year.

Do my traction - Eesh. I never really did get into the habit of doing this. If I do remember, it only lasts for a few days before I forget, and then a week or so later I remember and think, "oh crap," and then for some reason never start it up again. But yeah, I need to do this.

Get caught up & stay caught up - Well hey now, here's a resolution where some decent progress has been made. Let's see, I achieved (and maintain) inbox zero (which I love and thoroughly recommend), I finally got through my starred items list in Google Reader and manage to keep it empty, and I've made some significant progress on cleaning up my hard drive. With just a little more work, I'll be ready to archive several GBs of files and free up space on my machine.

Now for the bad news: That room full of boxes that Morah and I hadn't unpacked after the move last year? Not only have we still not unpacked them, but the room they're in became our storage room and it's reaching critical mass. We need to move our office downstairs into that room, which means we need to clean it out. Our plan is to do at least 15 to 30 minutes of work on it each day, pulling things out and unpacking boxes, deciding what to keep (and where to keep it) and what to sell or donate. I'm confident we'll have that room squared away within a few months.

My Google Reader also has some bad news. Although my starred items list stays pretty scant, I have articles that I've tagged for business, web design, and web development. I rarely seem to have time to read those articles, and they've been piling up. I think I need to just dedicate some time every day to reading them and getting them back down to a manageable number (such as zero).

Build my business - Last January I said that I wasn't going to be able to build my business very much because that would have been a conflict of interest with my job. However, I quit that job in June to start a company with a couple of other guys, so building my business got an unexpected boost.

We aren't out of the woods yet, though. Although the past 6 months have been fantastic, our company is still relatively poor and disorganized. I don't want you to think we don't have any money or organization, we do, I just feel like we need more of both. We're actually meeting on Saturday to talk about ways to improve both of those areas, so I feel like we're on track. The three of us are absolutely dedicated to making this work, and I feel like I made the right choice at the right time.

I feel like I should set at least one tangible/measurable goal here, so what I want to accomplish this year is to get my CMS working to a point where clients can log in and update the basic content portions of their website. I hope to have this done in the next couple of months, but I know I have some high hurdles to overcome in order to get to that point.

Work on my personal websites - Ouch, here's another one I failed. Although this blog saw a lot of action early in the year, once I started working for myself, the number of posts dropped dramatically. Although my visits and pageviews are up compared to last year, my pages per visit and time on site have gone down. I really liked the direction I was going at the beginning of the year, and I'd like to try to get back to that. Plus, I just like writing and I want to get back into it.

One of the things I've been meaning to do with the blog is update the template and switch from MovableType to Wordpress. That would be a huge project, but one that I think is worth it (because it would give me more control over things).

I also have a couple of other personal sites that need some love, so we'll see about keeping those updated as well.

Get outside - I did manage to get outside a bit last year, especially once I started working for myself. Although I'm not at the point where I can take a siesta every day, I did lay out in the sun on our patio furniture several times over the summer. It was fantastic and I look forward to it again this year.

I also want to spend more time working on our landscaping and gardening, which I'll talk more about later in this post.

Do more urban exploration - This is another one that suffered from me being self-employed. I'd like to say I'll work on it again this year, but to be honest, I probably won't make it much of a priority. In light of some of the other things I want to do, I'm going to take this off of my list for the time being.

Have a kid - I cannot describe how excited Morah and I are that she's pregnant. I'm happy to be able to cross this one off the list (keep an eye out for it again in a few years, though). Also, don't forget that if you feel so inclined, you can buy us great baby stuff from our baby registries, which are listed in the navigation links to the left.

Build a nursery - Pretty self-explanatory. It's something we need to do, but I don't want to half-ass it. Actually renovating the room is a big step toward getting the house the way we want it, so this is more than just "clean out that room upstairs and put a crib in it."

Do my stretches - My personal trainer showed me some stretches and together we discovered just how inflexible I really am. She told me to do some certain stretches twice a day, and much like my daily traction for my back, I don't do my stretches. This is something I really need to do, and in future blog posts about my resolutions I'll combine doing my traction with doing my stretches (since I'll probably do them together in real life).

Build a garden, grow some food - When I was in high school, I had a garden in my backyard. I loved it. I was first exposed to growing my own food in kindergarten and I loved it then. There's just something about working in the soil, nurturing plants, and eating the results that just makes me happy and helps relieve any stress I may have. Morah and I had talked about building a garden this past year, but we had so many other things going on that we never really got around to doing it. We bought a lot of fresh produce at the farmers' market, but a lot of it is stuff we could have grown ourselves. We did manage to grow some tomatoes and herbs, and let me tell you how there's no greater pizza than one topped with your own just-picked ingredients.

We have a list of vegetables we'd like to try to grow, but we'll probably start kind of small and work our way up. I would love to be able to grow most of the produce we eat, and my goal is to grow enough of certain things that we're able to can the excess and use it during the winter.

Prepare to get chickens - Originally this resolution was going to be "get chickens," but Morah said we should probably wait another year, and honestly, I know she's right. That doesn't mean we can't prepare for next year, though! I want to learn what I need to know about raising chickens so I can have a plan in place for when we do get them.

Some of you may be wondering why we want chickens at all. For the eggs, of course! From what I've been told, each chicken will lay an egg near daily. I'm looking forward to fresh eggs.

Reduce garbage output - Continuing along this line of lower-impact living, I want to significantly reduce our garbage output. Morah and I already have the smallest garbage bin the city offers (I think. There might be a smaller one. I should look into that) and we rarely fill it up. One of the things I want to do in the spring is get a compost pile started, which would vastly reduce our organic waste output.

I have a couple of other ideas, the goals of which are to limit how frequently we need to put our garbage can out to be picked up. My first goal in that respect is to be able to consistently put our can out every other week instead of every week. It will take some planning (and perhaps a second garbage can in the house), but it's an interesting experiment. I'll let you know how it goes.

Learn French - Morah took French in high school and college, whereas I took Spanish. In hindsight, I wish I would have taken French. It's not too late for me to learn, however, and I've been using a number of resources to learn the language. It's going pretty well, but I still can't say very much. I know a bunch of vocabulary words though. And like Spanish, I have a hard time remembering which gender objects are. Oh well. By the end of the year, I'd like to be able to have a basic conversation with someone in French, so that's my goal.

Learn to play the piano and the bagpipes - A couple of Christmases ago, I got a bagpipe practice chanter and tutor. I can play my scales and I know the notes, but I'm still trying to perfect my fingering. Also, the cat doesn't like it when I play.

I've also wanted to know how to play the piano for a long time, and I found some videos on YouTube that, although they seem incredibly basic, promise to teach me... Well, they promise to teach me the basics. I can already do a lot more on the piano than I used to be able to do, and Morah knows how to play, which will help me learn.

I'd like to dedicate more time to both of these, with the eventual goals of (1) actually playing the Great Highland Bagpipes, and (2) moving on to learn to play a concertina (can you tell I like weird instruments?).

Keep to-do lists - I often think of things I need to do, and then promptly forget them because I don't write them down (for example, I know there are resolutions I wanted to put on this list, but because I didn't write them down, I can't remember what they are). I need to start keeping to-do lists that I refer to frequently to ensure I'm getting done in a timely manner the things I need to get done. That includes printing out this list and hanging it up where I'll see it every day.

Create a schedule - My last resolution for 2010 will, I suspect, be the most important. Many of my failures last year can be attributed to a lack of time. With more resolutions on this year's list, it doesn't take a rocket surgeon to see that my time will be stretched even thinner. So what can I do without sleeping less? I think some careful scheduling is in order.

Right off the bat, it's clear that I won't be able to do everything everyday. For example, if I want to learn to play two different instruments, as much as playing them both every single day would help, I don't have the time to spend on both of them everyday. But if I play piano one day and pipes the next, and then switch back and forth like that, I can make progress in both areas (and hopefully will be less likely to burn out on either one). The same is true of most of the other things I want to do.

There are a few things I'll need to do everyday, however, such as my traction and stretching, as well as work. For a start, I think it will help a lot to have fixed work hours. So far I've been working whenever I feel like it, which thankfully is a lot of the time. The downside to this is that I don't really have days off from work, and I often find myself working in the evening when I could be doing other things (like some of the stuff on this list).

One of the first things I'm going to do this year is make a few schedules. Daily schedules, weekly schedules, and possibly monthly schedules. I'll tweak them as needed, and hopefully before long I'll have my time balanced in a way that I can accomplish everything I want to and still have time to relax. Actually, free time will be built in to the schedule. If I want to spend it working, then I will. If want to spend it reading, cooking, playing an instrument, hanging out with Morah, or anything else, I'll be able to do it.

Now throw in the fact that our kid is due to be born in June, and my schedules may go out the window before I get to my July resolutions update post.

So that wraps up my resolutions for this year. Here's to an exciting year. And remember: "Life change, life change, life change."

4 Comments | 0 Trackbacks | Permalink

How Is Babby Formed?

Posted by Thomas J. Brown at 1722 hrs

Most of you know by now that Morah is pregnant. And for those of you who don't know, guess what! Morah is pregnant!

The image above is of our babby, which is currently about 15 weeks along (about 12 weeks when this ultrasound was taken).

Everyone asks the same questions, so I'll try to answer as many of them as I can remember here.

When did you find out? We found out right before our anniversary by way of a home pregnancy test. This was confirmed about 3 weeks later by a doctor.

When is the baby due? Early June.

Were you trying? For how long? Yes, we were trying. It's kind of funny, actually, we decided to use science to help us right out of the gate, so once Morah went off of birth control, we were still careful to use other methods of contraception while Morah tracked her cycle. She also used a basal body thermometer, which helped us know when the best chances of conception might be. Armed with all this knowledge, the very first time we actually tried (that is to say, had unprotected sex for the purposes of procreation), it worked.

Do you know the sex? Are you going to find out? We don't know yet, but considering how much planning went into making the kid, do you really think we'd wait to find out?

Which do you prefer, a girl or a boy? Ultimately, we want both a boy and a girl, so don't have too much of a preference this time. That said, I'm leaning toward boy, simply because I'm the only "Brown" male capable of passing on the name within the bloodline.

Have you picked out names? What are they? I'm the fourth Thomas in a line, and I want to follow family tradition, so Thomas for a boy (his middle name would be Christopher). We talked about a lot of different names for a girl, and I suggested Tamsen. Morah preferred the spelling "Tamsyn," which follows a family tradition of hers (and that tradition is psychotic spelling of names by randomly changing certain vowels to "y." Just kidding, honey). Tamsyn's middle name would be Morah, after my wife's grandmother and namesake.

There's actually a funny story with the names. Thomas was always a given, but when we settled on Tamsyn, we thought, "gee, we don't know much about this name. Let's look into it." When we did, we discovered that Tamsyn is a variant of Thomasina, the female version of Thomas. Crap! We accidentally named both of our kids Thomas! Then I realized that Thomas means twin, and twins run in both of our families. We thought it would be appropriately ironic if Morah became pregnant with twins, but that doesn't seem to be the case.

Are you excited? Hell yeah, we're excited!

I think that about does it for the questions. I've added a couple of baby registry links to the sidebar, just below my wish lists. (*nudge-nudge* *wink-wink*)

7 Comments | 1 Trackback | Permalink

RIP: Lucille ''Bunny'' Brown

Posted by Thomas J. Brown at 0928 hrs

The last time I saw my Grandma Brown alive was in June of this year. Morah and I were back in Honolulu for my ten year high school reunion, and I knew there was a good chance it would be the last time I would get to see her. I'm sad to say that I was right, as she passed away on the morning of November 8th.

The funeral was held on a Monday morning; a simple and beautiful service that I think my grandmother would have enjoyed. Although the circumstances were sad, the Brown family was happy to be reunited for the first time in over ten years. Family and friends came together to remember the life of a woman that had deeply impacted us all.

The rest of the day was spent with family. We ate good food, enjoyed an afternoon at the beach, and rested after an emotionally taxing morning that left us all physically drained. We had dinner together, and afterward bid each other farewell, promising not to let another ten years pass until we see each other again.

Bunny, as everyone called her - so nicknamed because of her "cotton top" of blonde hair - was diagnosed with Alzheimer's a while back and had been in a slow, steady decline. When Morah and I got engaged in 2004, she had trouble remembering who I was. At our wedding in 2006 she was barely ambulatory, and it was clear that although she knew she was at a wedding, she didn't know that I was her grandson. The past year had been particularly hard on her. She had been able to sit upright when I saw her in June, but she spent her last couple of months in bed.

Watching her body deteriorate wasn't as painful as watching her mind fail her. Each time we saw her it was clear that she knew she was supposed to recognize us, but didn't. What hurt the most wasn't that she had forgotten who I was, but the clearly embarrassed look on her face as she feigned recognition - the child-like hope that she wouldn't be caught in her lie.

Perhaps the hardest moment for me came back in June. I dreaded seeing her because I had heard about her state from my parents, and I didn't want my last memory of her to be one so sad. Luckily, Morah was with me, as was a close family friend, Judy. We visited in the early afternoon and she slept most of the time. When she was awake, she didn't pretend to know who we were, even after her partner, Mike, told her that I was her grandson. As hard as it was to see her like that, I think that made it easier at the same time. I can't really explain why. Maybe that didn't actually make it easier; perhaps I just felt like it was because the whole experience wasn't as bad as I had built it up to be in my mind. Mike and Judy talked the whole time we were there, and grandma slept in her wheelchair for most of the time.

Just before we left, I took her hand, told her that I loved her, and said my good-byes. Morah and Judy did too, and it was then that Bunny had a moment of clarity. She looked up at us, blinked a few times, and then smiled and laughed. Her laugh. The laugh that told me she was still in there. I had tried so hard not to cry, and although I managed not to up until that point, once she laughed, I lost it. Even now I'm crying as I write this. In that brief moment, I got to see my grandmother one last time. I got to thank her for twenty-eight years of happy memories, life lessons, and love.

Today my grandmother's ashes are housed in a beautiful koa wood box, inurned in a niche in an open air columbarium, forever facing Diamond Head.

1 Comment | 0 Trackbacks | Permalink

Ubiquitous Atomic Time

Posted by Thomas J. Brown at 1518 hrs

Why don't all clocks and watches automatically set their time based on the atomic clock?

Besides our iPhones and computers, Morah and I have only a single clock in the house that automatically sets itself to the atomic clock. We like it so much (it really is our favorite clock) that we've decided not to buy any more clocks that don't set themselves.

Watches are a bit stickier of a wicket, not only because so few seem to have the feature, but also because those that do may not be in the style for which you're looking. Luckily, I have been seeing more "atomic" watches lately, so perhaps the trend is catching on.

So if the technology is small enough to fit in a watch and isn't very expensive (the cheapest "atomic" watch I could find by doing a quick Google search was about $28), why isn't this a more popular feature? If all clocks and watches were set to the atomic clock, people wouldn't really be able to make any excuses about their clocks or watches being slow. Plus, since we seem to be stuck with Daylight Saving Time (long time readers know my thoughts about DST), clocks that adjust themselves make the transition much easier (although I still say the spring forward should happen at 4 P.M. on a business day).

The biggest drawback to having all timekeeping devices take their cues from the atomic clock is that, if all the clocks set themselves automatically, you couldn't set it 10 minutes fast (as some people like to do). The problem could easily be solved with a small amount of extra electronics. When the clock finishes setting itself, you could set the clock forward or backward to your liking. Once you're done, the clock would note how many hours and minutes different you set the clock and store those offset values as positive or negative numbers (with the default offsets being zero, of course). Then, whenever the clock sets itself, it would check the offset values that you have selected and apply them to the time. I'm not sure what the best method for resetting the clock would be, but a reset button seems like it would do that trick.

What do you guys think? Does this seem like a good idea? Would you buy clocks/watches with these features?

8 Comments | 0 Trackbacks | Permalink

The Fun Theory

Posted by Thomas J. Brown at 0739 hrs

Volkswagen has a new campaign they're running called The Fun Theory. The fundamental principle of The Fun Theory is things that are fun can change peoples' behavior for the better. As evidence of this theory (which at this point is probably actually more of a hypothesis), Volkswagen successfully tried to get people to use some stairs instead of an escalator by making the stairs more fun. According to the video (and we'll have to take the video's word for it), 66% more people took the stairs than normal. In support of this, the video shows people automatically head for the escalator, and then make a conscious decision to take the stairs instead.

The Fun Theory and the accompanying video have some problems, however. For a start, how is "better behavior" being defined? What makes taking the stairs a better behavior than taking the escalator? It's also worth noting that there is not an escalator that goes down, so I hope that 66% only counted people who went up the stairs (although I doubt it).

The biggest problem I see with all of this is that fun is relative. Piano stairs for a single day is a fun and delightful surprise, and who wouldn't want to play on them? Piano stairs every hour of every day for the rest of time... Well, that's not as much fun. That's not to say there aren't people who wouldn't find it deliriously entertaining to take the piano stairs every day; I'm sure there are and they would. But the point of the video - and this is fairly well implied, in my opinion - is that by making things "fun," you can change peoples' behavior on a long-term basis. If what makes something fun is available every day, it becomes commonplace and kind of boring.

Think about where you live. Are there famous landmarks and "must-see" tourist attractions that you've never visited? Why not? For most of us, we haven't taken advantage of the attractions because there's no time limit on when we can see them (although even this isn't true. Did you get a chance to visit the World Trade Center in New York before 9/11? No? Too late now). They're out there and we can always see them some other time. They aren't especially enticing because we live so close that we can visit them anytime we want to.

So if you lived near piano stairs, you might take them out of convenience (if the escalator was crowded), but it's unlikely that most people would take the stairs every day of their lives simply because it's fun.

0 Comments | 0 Trackbacks | Permalink