I have been invited to go to a birthday party
this weekend in a couple of weeks by one of my adult friends (yes, I have friends who are twice my age. So?) The invitation says not to bring a gift, but on a recent episode of The Loop (which I think is an overall pretty enjoyable show), Sam found himself in a similar situation. His boss, who is at least twice as old as Sam, invites everyone to a party and insists that no one should get him any gifts. So, of course, everyone goes out and buys him the most expensive and elaborate gifts they could think of. In other words, no gifts meant that you had damn well better have a gift.
So which is it?
Am I supposed to bring a gift, or should I really show up empty-handed? I’ve never really been in this situation before, so I don’t know how people handle these things. I mean, in my mind, if you say no gifts, then I don’t bring you a gift, that’s your own fault and you have nothing to be sore about. But I know how other people (especially women, which is who the birthday is for) tend to think, so I think that saying no gifts really means, “I’m going to be polite and invite you to my party. I’m going to be extra-polite and say no gifts. And if you happen to get me that cute sweater at Macy’s, I won’t be disappointed. No, the red one. Size 6.”
Do you think I should bring a “just-in-case” gift?